If you have been living with ADHD anger in your relationship, you know that it leaves little room for that loving feeling.
This is because ADHD anger in romantic relationships undermines the best of intentions. It is volatile, intense and frequent. Over time, this behaviour causes a lot of unhealed hurt in both partners.
The truth is that there is hope. You can stop ADHD anger from ruining your relationship.
ADHD Anger and Love
If you read my blog, How Anger Can Kill Your Relationship, you know how ADHD anger works. There are real executive functioning reasons why people struggle to manage their emotions.
Once you both understand that the anger is a symptom of the difficulty regulating emotions – not evidence that your partner no longer loves you – you get to make better choices.
Here are effective ways you can save your relationship and become close again.
7 Strategies to Manage Anger in an Adult ADHD Relationship
Don’t Be Discouraged
It takes time to master these strategies. Don’t become discouraged. Instead, expect that you won’t succeed 100% of the time. Just meet the inevitable hiccups with non-judgment and pledge to keep trying.
Remember that practicing loving kindness when there has been a lot of hurt is the work of warriors. Fight for each other. Not against each other.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”